Do you feel like you’re stuck in a pattern you know needs to change, but you don’t know where to start? You know you need to do something but maybe it’s hard to get motivated. You might even feel like you can’t be your real self with those around you. I’ve been there.
Feeling worried, depressed or stressed hurts us. And those feelings make it so much harder to believe in good futures don’t they. I know I never predicted my life accurately 20 years ago when I was really struggling. I was sure that I wasn’t going to succeed at anything and that everything was too painful (ugh, such an awful way to feel).
If things keep on the way they have been, what will it be like in a year? What about in 5 years? How will you feel then and what will be the same (or maybe worse)?
But … if you picked up the phone today, called me and got some help, what might be different for you in a few months?
How might your life have changed for the better because you took a stand on your own behalf and did something that you know you really need to do.
Or as I ask my clients – how will you know that coming to see me will have worked? What does that future look like? Is it better than this present?
It can definitely be a bit scary coming to therapy and taking ownership of your direction, but I truly believe that it’s one of the best decisions you’ll ever make. And my past clients tend to agree with me!
Living is a mix of intense and ordinary situations
But ordinary doesn’t have to be meaningless or empty, and intense doesn’t have to be scary or sad. Problems, difficulties and all of your emotions are natural and normal parts of life. Feeling overwhelmed by emotions like misery, anger, anxiety, hopelessness or shame is common, but you don’t have to stay trapped in your feelings.
I’ll help you find the patterns in your experiences and how those patterns influence you. Seeing patterns brings clarity to choices and a chance to change.
You’ll get a better understanding of how your mind, body and emotions come together (like a perfect storm sometimes!) and make you you. You’ll feel better as you understand your self more.
We’ll work together to plan your next steps. I’ll help you with emotional and mental models, skills and tools and support you through it all.
In our first free chat, I’ll do my best to understand where you’re at and see if I can help. If we like each other and you want to book in, great. If I don’t think I’m a good match for you, I’ll do my best to refer you on to someone I think can help you out.
Either way you get assistance and that’s the goal at this stage of your journey.
That said, I do have three special interest groups.
I’ve spent the past decade investigating what helps and what hurts wellbeing at work. There can be intense interactions between emotional demands at work and your personal health and wellbeing.
I help individuals who are experiencing workplace difficulties like bullying, or ongoing work overload, or chronic stress to find solutions and strategies that really make a difference.
I also provide professional development that helps groups understand and deal with emotions in the workplace at all organisational levels.
Older adults (60+)
I help older adults who are struggling with transitions improve their wellbeing and quality of life. Together we can improve feelings of coping, day-to-day functioning, sense of control, and self-efficacy. You’ll learn thought-catching, understanding and refocusing so as to best manage your unique situation.
We’ll look back at your prior strengths with acceptance and compassion and see how they can help you adapt to the challenges of aging. And old trauma can be worked through, understood and dealt with so you’re not carrying a weight or secret alone anymore.
Human longevity is a gift. We have a large population of people aged over 65 and we are creating the future of aged care now. I present informational talks about good mental health and aging to retirement villages, community groups and organisations.
Parenting, children and developmental issues
I watched a movie one day when I was 13 and home from school (Son-Rise). The story of that little boy stuck with me; how his Mum had joined him in his world and gently helped him develop. Coincidentally that same year we read The October Child, a story about a boy coming to terms with the changes in his family since the arrival of his little brother.
I was intrigued by Autism Spectrum Disorder and other developmental issues and wanted to understand more about brains, behaviour and emotions. Fast forward a few decades and here I am. I’ve spent 30 years assisting families in all manner of ways and learning what works best.
Now, I help parents and children who need special supports to do great things, and I give presentations about child mental health, emotions and emotional flexibility.